A long time ago when I was living in Brazil, I saw and heard a very chilling scene while I was traveling by bus. In Brazil the interstate buses used to have a driver and ticket boy. The ticket boy was responsible for selling tickets to travelers during the trip and for keeping the bus in order and clean.
I was sitting in the first seat, very close to the driver and the ticket boy, and I overheard a conversation between the two. The young man was complaining about his father and the driver was trying to calm him down. At one moment I heard the young man say: “Next time I will kill him!” I was shocked, because of the way he used that expression, he really meant it. The driver and I really believed that the young man would kill his father if he had a chance. This shows us what Jesus said in one of His sermons: “a man’s enemies will be the members of his own household.’ Matthew 10:36.”
King David experienced something like this in his own life. His son Absalom took the throne and tried to kill his father. David had to run for his life and flee from Jerusalem.
During that time David composed Psalm 3. This psalm is for those who face opposition in their own family, or in their inner circle. It was hard for David to believe that his own son one day would persecute him and try to kill him. We, like David, never think that animosity inside the family will ever happen. We are wrong. It happens more frequently than we imagine.
This psalm is a cry for help in this kind of situation. David did not want to fight his own son, so he decided to leave, but he knew that this decision would not help and that he and his army would eventually have to face Absalom and his forces. It is because of this that David cries to the Lord. He cries for deliverance and protection, against all the odds, and he is confident that the Lord will hear him.
One of the most common consequences of fighting in the family is losing sleep. How many parents stay awake night after night because of their children? In the middle of that kind of turmoil David was able to say this: “I lie down and sleep; I wake again, because the LORD sustains me. Psalm 3:5.” It is the confidence and trust in the Lord that will make you sleep during those times. Because of his faith in the Lord, David would not fear, even if he was outnumbered.
One more thing that we learn from David about this kind of situation is his boldness to ask God to act in his favor. David did not want to do anything against his son Absalom, but he asks God to do it for him. “Arise, O LORD! Deliver me, O my God! Strike all my enemies on the jaw; break the teeth of the wicked. Psalm 3:7” Sometimes we do not have courage, strength, or the will to discipline our children. Like David we need to ask God to do it for us. We know that the Lord is just and righteous and He will do it right.
So, if you are facing problems with your children, do as David did. Cry out to the Lord, trust in Him, and ask Him to intervene for you.
Have a blessed week,